Love v/s Attraction!

A sweet kind gesture, a warm smile, and a lil more attention and we gals fall flat on that cute guy we have always looked at from the corner of our eyes! But we gals, we better beware! Not always, these cute looking guys are “in love” no matter what they say and claim.

There is a very easy guide I have come up with, that shall surely help you distinguish between the guys you hand around with loves you or is it merely Time Pass. Watch your step dahlings, you might else end up being hurt.

This is what GUYS do in different phases i.e. Love and/or Time Pass:

Love: will call you with your name usually, unless in a very mushy mood

Time Pass: will never take you real name unless there is fight. From shona to baby to sweetie = all of it, is you!

Love: Limited respectful PDA

Time Pass: PDA knows no boundaries (ofcoz he doesn’t really care)

Love: would insist on meeting your friends, to know you more!

Time Pass: would insist on meeting your (female) friends only and would start to flirt with them instantly (esplly the pretty ones)

Love: would be interested in knowing everything you do through the day!

Time Pass: would be interested in knowing what you doing when you are talking and when the next meet can happen!

Love: he’d have a choice in seeing you in a certain attire / get up and shall love some of them more than the others

Time Pass: he’d like everything you wear and would fanatically like every picture you put up on FB, no matter however unlikable it is!

Love: would want to hear your voice once a day at least, no matter how hectic the day!

Time Pass: would be around only when they need someone to talk to!

Love: would be on his toes to make you meet his family (At least some members, if not all at a time)

Time Pass: you wouldn’t even know his family details – meeting is a distant dream (yours) nightmare (his)

Love: would love to talk to you, listen to you, and spend quality time with you

Time Pass: would only love being hanky-panky around you

Love: physical intimacy comes along naturally as comfort level increases

Time Pass: emotional blackmailed physical intimacy – making it the yardstick of comfort level (the most dangerous one, don’t EVER fall for it)

These are the basic indicators...else every word he utters and every move he makes can be measured -observed and judged...so when it is a new relationship, please keep you eyes, ears, mind and GUT feelings' switch open ....to avoid getting miserably hurt...

New Feather in the Cap: Laws related to Women!

Flavia Agnes of Majlis - a Women Rights Activist Group -- their efforts led to a change that is an amendment to the law for women. This is termed to be a "progressive new addition to the law for women". Now women in India can, legally continue to use their maiden name and surname, if they so wish, even after marriage and for all the official purposes.

Now it is totally legal for a woman to retain her maiden name after marriage. The High Court of Bombay amended a vital rule recently, under the Family Courts Act that would now prevent a woman from being coerced to file marriage-related suits only by using her husband's name/surname. This would thus give relief to all the women who are/would be seeking divorce. And legal experts have commented that it will help a married woman file proceedings in other courts too using her maiden name.

This Rule says: "a wife, who has not changed her name after marriage, by publishing in the official gazette, may continue to use her maiden name". Clear it is, as it appears, a woman now, is not obliged to use her husband's name, even after marriage. This would thus make a lot of things easier for many women, in many ways.

Now, after this amendment, a woman can file suits or carry on any legal proceedings, in her maiden name or any other name that she might have adopted, the only catch is that the name should be officially registered in the Gazette. She very well can, retain her maiden name and no court can force her to write her name as her first name followed by her husband's name and his surname while filing any marriage related petitions.

As a lawyer at the Bombay High Court quotes: "A woman cannot be compelled while seeking divorce to adopt her married surname if she hadn't been using it, just as she cannot be compelled to drop her married name and revert to maiden surname after divorce, if she had been"

It now is a trend, at least by the urban women to retain her maiden name and surname even after marriage, to protect their long earned fame or for just having their identity. So for such women, this new amendment is a boon. As a Mumbai Based Family lawyer says: "These women, when they approach the family court to initiate a divorce dispute or a plea for protection from domestic violence few years later or after decades of living with their maiden name, the insistence by court staff to adopt their husband's name comes as a shock and sends their litigation-induced stress levels soaring"

THE LAW ON NAMES (NOW):

After Marriage

* A wife may continue to use her maiden name if she has not changed it officially after marriage

* A wife can file for divorce in her maiden surname; married surname; any other name she may have adopted and officially in the gazette

After Divorce

* A woman can continue using her former married surname, except if her intention is to defraud the ex-husband!

TIME FOR WOMEN TO REJOICE!!!!

WRECKED!!!!!

Is being alone the only way out?

Sometimes a loud “yes”

Is what my heart and mind has to shout!

Knowing not what tomorrow holds,

Fear wrecks my world,

Making it go haywire in manifolds!

I take a sneak-peak in the past horrors,

It gives chills down my spine,

Making me averse to all the forthcoming unknown terrors!

So I decide to be all by myself,

Not putting anything at risk,

I decide to be my own imp – my own elf!

The beauty of love is a long lost theory,

Today’s reality holds nothing pleasing,

In love’s name – it’s all a mockery!

The music now is just a mere haunting sound,

The melodies have all faded away,

Happy – nice – lovely things have rotated 360 degrees around!

The rain no more gives a feeling so soothing,

Raindrops now instead burns my skin,

Nothing of the magnanimous nature to me is now smoothing!

It all falls hard on me,

It all chases me and hunts me down,

It all burns me to ashes,

It all crushes my very being,

It takes away from me – all that I have ever cherished; all that I have ever nurtured; all that I have ever known to be mine!

I stand here,

Alone

Shattered

Aimless

With the last wish,

To become one;

With the almighty,

Who is the Supreme Being – the divine formless!