Being in love is a wonderful feeling.
Mostly because you know you are not alone and that you have someone with you,
by your side for the rest of your life. That is why these days’ people marry
unlike in the past when marriage was only for procreation. When love is
involved, there is this satisfactory feeling that contents your heart that you
have someone by your side to share. Human kind has never really lived fully
without sharing. Sharing is one of the ways you can live life to the fullest.
Love, faith, trust, understanding etc are surely the basis of any relationship
but the reason behind any relationship being formed is “sharing”. Be it sharing
joy or sorrow or both.
In a romantic relation be it
boyfriend-girlfriend, husband-wife etc sharing is very essential. Especially in
the institute of marriage; sharing is the epitome of any marital life. After
marriage, a couple shares everything, literally. This made me to wonder tonight
that, once you are married to someone you love; it’s so easy to be ‘naked’ in
front of them. Gradually someday, you realize you can walk around without any
piece of cloth in their presence or undress or dress up in front of them. The
coyness or the hesitation just flies out of the window before you realize and
that certain level of comfort suddenly escalates. That feeling is awesome...
weird for those who haven’t had many relations before their marriage or haven’t
been too physically involved with their husband before marriage.
Even after all of that physical
“nakedness” being easy like a cakewalk, is it really easy to be naked mentally
or emotionally in front of your partner? Human mind and heart has so many
layers to shield it and keep it safe from being vulnerable. How many layers do we
really unwrap in front of our partners or let them unwrap the same to know us
better or to be our “life partner” / “soul mate” in true sense? We don't do it
intentionally though may be but, we keep so much of our life, so much of us,
dark and hidden from our partner. And if that is the case, is anyone really
anyone’s true “soul mate”? Is that promise “I will be with you in all the bad
and good times of life” really just words? Because visible ups and downs of
life are very few....ups and downs of our mind and heart are uncountable... do
we ever have anyone to hold us during those times? We might but don't take that
chance because we are too scared... scared of being judged or misjudged, scared
of not being accepted, scared of not being “perfect” in the eyes of that
someone who we don't want to lose. Or simply scared that the devils of our
minds and fears of our hearts might sway us away... or bind us in some chains
that we’ll never be able to breakthrough...
It’s something to ponder about... let
me know, what you think?
