Life -- as SHE knows it!

My life suddenly got a new meaning...and who gave it? A young free spirited girl, in her mid teens.. A cute face, soon to be pretty, a smile that never fades, pair of eyes in a search, lips that are always humming a song. When you see her, you would be like what a serene – cute looking – happy girl…totally in here own little happy world that has no qualms, no sufferings, away and devoid of all pain and agony!

But can we judge the book by its cover? Not really! As I began to read her layer by layer, I realized, there is so much hidden in her heart that may be my whole life would fall short to understand or imagine what living hell her life is!

Abused; both verbally and physically by her own mother & younger sister, almost every other day for almost everything she does. Parents don’t live together, they live in different countries. And she is more attached to her daddy, and that’s her sin.

Family is where we learn to love, to cherish, to trust. Family is where we are protected, nurtured, given strength, given courage. Family is temple of love, faith, empathy, compassion. It teaches us the values of sacrifice for loved ones, the importance of cherishing relationships, of morals, ethics, the ability to choose from good & bad, from right & wrong. Family is everything for a child who is yet to go out and see the world. And if this sheltering cocoon is where you are abused and unloved and ignored and neglected and if you are deprived of everything you have and you should be given, then it gets really tough for a child to open up her/his mind and heart to the world and for the rest of their life, they would be tormented by the hatred and pain and suffering and agony they have been gifted by the people who are connected to them by blood. A bond, which is the strongest bond ever!

But this little female out there, is so full of life, even after being in hell since 5 long years. I think of her and my heart breaks into pieces… I think of her smile and pray to the Almighty to take away all her pains and give her the happiness she deserves… I truly and dearly wish & hope & pray to God to preserve her innocence and keep it safe, to make her believe that world is a better place to live, to keep her re-assured that there is love out there for all and everyone gets their share!

True it is when they say, that when God gives you adversity, He without fail gives you the courage to bear it and overcome it, when the time is right!

May God bless her and give her the LIFE as she knows it!

I am Proud of you Kiddo! You are for sure a source of inspiration for all those, who only sulk about problems instead of facing them with all the might that they have, just the way you do it!

Live FREE

We all knowingly sometimes and unknowingly most times, give shelter to a lethal thing in our minds & hearts... It takes the better off us and makes us feel miserable all the time..."GRUDGE"!


We don't really realize it but its only us who creates it...we don't really know it but its only us who can destroy it... Coz nothing apart from the ever so complex human mind coupled with emotions that have had a burnt, can create something as dangerous as grudge...


Very recently I realized that if we really wanna be happy, we need to cleanse our system, our inner system off of all evils and devils that have kept poking us at unwanted places and times...


When we are deeply hurt by someone's words / actions / behaviour .. that's when we let grudge take over our heads & hearts... It crawls within every part of us making us feel more victimized and more guilty than the wrong doer...


Getting rid of your grudge is not easy and not many wanna do it either coz the process takes a lot of courage and of course you need to leave aside your ego and taste the bitter side of the story, for a while, which might linger sometimes... But, don't we get a cavity filled tooth either treated or removed?


This is the same... its like living free...like unloading the unwanted things, shedding the rusted parts and leaving them behind to lead a lighter life -- a happier life... There was this person who hurt me real bad...the kind of behaviour that person posed wasn't something I could tolerate... and things got very messed up! For nearly 6 long months I held an ugly grudge against that person, unknowingly for the most time though....but one day when i realized, that this miserable killing feeling is nothing but my grudge, i so wanted to get over with it... so i decided to meet that person... sounds easy but i had to gather a lot of courage to call and ask to meet. Actually meet, talk without letting the bitterness flow or show...hug and say a goodbye dearly wishing good for the other person....


But the feeling i then had was so amazing...as if someone took away the curse that was spelled on me...
Today even if i remember that person or the good and the bad moments we had spent together, it doesnt kill me...it comes and goes away like a passing thought...but this one made me realize something very vital and taught me a lesson i ought not forget, never hold a Grudge against anyone...it does more bad to you than to the other person and seriously, its not worth it....no one is worth so much .... NO ONE!!!!

LIVE FREE ---- LIFE IS JUST ONCE --- AT LEAST AS FAR AS WE KNOW!!!!!

Love v/s Attraction!

A sweet kind gesture, a warm smile, and a lil more attention and we gals fall flat on that cute guy we have always looked at from the corner of our eyes! But we gals, we better beware! Not always, these cute looking guys are “in love” no matter what they say and claim.

There is a very easy guide I have come up with, that shall surely help you distinguish between the guys you hand around with loves you or is it merely Time Pass. Watch your step dahlings, you might else end up being hurt.

This is what GUYS do in different phases i.e. Love and/or Time Pass:

Love: will call you with your name usually, unless in a very mushy mood

Time Pass: will never take you real name unless there is fight. From shona to baby to sweetie = all of it, is you!

Love: Limited respectful PDA

Time Pass: PDA knows no boundaries (ofcoz he doesn’t really care)

Love: would insist on meeting your friends, to know you more!

Time Pass: would insist on meeting your (female) friends only and would start to flirt with them instantly (esplly the pretty ones)

Love: would be interested in knowing everything you do through the day!

Time Pass: would be interested in knowing what you doing when you are talking and when the next meet can happen!

Love: he’d have a choice in seeing you in a certain attire / get up and shall love some of them more than the others

Time Pass: he’d like everything you wear and would fanatically like every picture you put up on FB, no matter however unlikable it is!

Love: would want to hear your voice once a day at least, no matter how hectic the day!

Time Pass: would be around only when they need someone to talk to!

Love: would be on his toes to make you meet his family (At least some members, if not all at a time)

Time Pass: you wouldn’t even know his family details – meeting is a distant dream (yours) nightmare (his)

Love: would love to talk to you, listen to you, and spend quality time with you

Time Pass: would only love being hanky-panky around you

Love: physical intimacy comes along naturally as comfort level increases

Time Pass: emotional blackmailed physical intimacy – making it the yardstick of comfort level (the most dangerous one, don’t EVER fall for it)

These are the basic indicators...else every word he utters and every move he makes can be measured -observed and judged...so when it is a new relationship, please keep you eyes, ears, mind and GUT feelings' switch open ....to avoid getting miserably hurt...

Chocolates & Sharing!

There has been a problem with me as some people say, I just can’t eat chocolates alone!!! I find the whole purpose of enjoying a yummy calorie-full :p bar of mood uplifting chocolate, dead, if I eat it alone! ;)

In my school days, I was called the “chocolate girl” coz I used to always carry chocolates to school and give it away to my friends in the classroom and make sure that they eat it during the class. Esp. in accounts class, poor thing, the teacher was new and dint know any of our names and she was a lil docile. All due respect and apologies to her, we have really had the most amazing times in her class! Studying in her lectures was the last thing we did ;) esp. me, deesha and abina. Those classes and chocolates are where, I got my lifelong friends from.

The “silsila” continued in manifolds in college days. I remember, in my law school days, (2004-2009) there was a friend / classmate / hostel mate called Anna…she knew of this and till the end of the hostel days, if I am not wrong, I never ate a chocolate alone, if I saw her around anywhere….that was fun…the content that I get when I share a chocolate is indefinable!

And luckily this sharing the chocolate craze never really ended. It followed even when I started working. Be it simmi, bhavik, prachiti, charmy, digant and even my boss, loves eating and sharing chocolates!!!! It’s so super fun to have like minds around (esp. for chocolates ;) …)

Sadly, I am a chronic migraine sufferer, and so chocolate is a BIG no –no for me, but who cares, if I crave for one, I don’t think again, I just grab my favorite chocolate (I never had a favorite one, it was always on my mood :D) share  it with someone and relish the chocolate and the moment.

But these days, my hands are tied! I am undergoing a treatment for migraine (Some millioneth time I guess) and for the two months of treatment, I am not allowed chocolates and the restriction is pretty stringent!!! :( So I am off chocolates…but that doesn’t stop me from writing about chocolates, see??? ;)

Was flipping through some old pictures and messages and notes and got to thinking that, is it the chocolates that really lift up the gloomy mood or is it the joy of sharing? But then again, I thought, you would generally wanna share your chocolates, even the favorite ones with the people you dearly love! You would fight over it, have a hit & run ;) {Literally} and sometimes even dearly wish for your sibling or spouse or friends to forcefully take your chocolate or take a big bite of it …happens with me…. I hate it when my dad bites away the end of a Ice cream Cone (as it is always filled with melted chocolate) but sometime when he is not interested in taking that bite, I feel sad and really wish he would pounce on it and eat it away!!!!

So I guess it’s not just the chocolates neither it is just the sharing, it’s both together… it’s about “Sharing the Chocolates”!!! :) I can for sure say that chocolates are no fun to eat or hog  :D if they aren’t shared with people you love!!!

*hoping these two months get over quickly so I can get back to eating & sharing chocolates like before!!!!!*

System v/s People

Very recently, in November, The Chief Justice of India said a very sensible thing which I thought to reproduce here, in my own way...coz he said something that I have always believed in…

Being a lawyer, my non-lawyer friends and others around always crib, and specifically crib in front of me that our country’s justice system is rotten!!!!! They never tire away from saying things like law in India has gone to dogs…

Sometimes I retaliate aggressively but at times I feel there is no point in doing so and thinking this I just shut up!!!! But when at night, while in my bed, I go back to that conversation or rather that complains and sulking session, I feel as if it’s my duty to rectify them over this misconception!

The system we have, the judicial system that is, is one of the best systems in the present times. Our laws are upbeat and flexible enough and they have been changed with the changing times, both in the written legislations and in the judgments pronounced by the courts (precedents as we call it).

As the Chief Justice of India said:

“India is an aspirational democracy.  It is the shared idea of India to emerge from Society which has individuals of diverse ideologies, cultures and religious denominations.  We must, therefore, identify common strands that will bind us, as one nation and one people.  Unless this is done we cannot build a modern and strong India. In the hierarchy of values, judicial integrity is above judicial independence.  Judicial accountability needs to be balanced with judicial independence.  I would request the Bar as well as eminent jurists to deliberate upon constitutional concepts such as Judicial Independence and Judicial Accountability.  We, the Judges, do not mind a studied fair criticism.  However, as an advice to the Bar please do not dismantle an Institution without showing how to build a better one. Please remember ‘When an Institution No Longer matters, we no longer matter.’…..”

It’s not the institution or the system that needs a change, it’s the people and their mindsets to change….only then can better days shall come along…we only need to work for dusting the system and polish it and then the faith in it shall come alive, all over again!!!!